Understand the police

 

Understand the police

Police are hired guns for the established power base. Your country, city or state may have guidance that includes “serve and protect” or formal rules that establish what branch of government they report to, and how they are supposed to operate.

Much confusion exists over the role of the police. The sheriff of Nottingham was enforcing the king's edicts. As society evolved and people began to divide their efforts based on specialized skills the ideas of law enforcement and national (tribal) defense emerged. The farmer and the rancher could feed the population while the artisan entertained. The craftsman could create and the merchant could trade if they did not have to spend all their time defending their lives and property.

Fast forward to the present day United States of America. For the most part a software engineer and an unemployed homeless person can exist without palpable fear of imminent death. Rival groups of protesters can express themselves with the understanding that cops, for the most part, will not use deadly force on either group and act as a pseudo referee. When cops arrest most citizens the expectation is that the police won't murder you in cold blood, take bribes and respect your rights.

On the other side of the law are a group of people who do not respect your right to exist, except to provide prey and booty for their benefit. The criminal justice system is designed to protect the rights of the accused, because it is recognized that it is the tendency of governments to abuse power. Seasoned criminals use these protections and the system to their advantage.

“The only thing worse than organized crime is disorganized crime.” Human laws are not natural laws like gravity. We make up agreements through our system of government and call them “laws.” Since enforcement comes from society and not nature, methods are mutually agreed upon to enforce said “laws.” You were born into this system. The people that made/make up the rules have their own agendas. Understand that the police are human cogs in the machinery of society. They have weapons to protect themselves, not you. They deal with people on the worst day of their life multiple times. They are a target and understand that. They are human and fallible. On the best day they enforce just laws in a just society and interact with cooperative, innocent, responsible citizens. But, on other days they meet you. If you act as if they don't care about you, your feelings and only want to go home, alive, uninjured with minimal paperwork and hassle you will likely survive.

De-funding the local law enforcement apparatus makes it easier for the federal government to impose it's will on the people with minimal resistance.

Tribalism

 

Tribalism

Since I have not received the tenth edition of the newspeak dictionary I am unsure of what you meant when you used the term tribalism. As with most human organizations positive and negative outcomes are possible. As a social animal we gravitate toward others that share common traits be it genetic, geographic or occupational. In many circumstances it increases survivability and dominance.

Is it a motorcycle club or gang? Associating and identifying with a tribe that shares positive values and mores seems to be a more practical mindset than denying our nature. Remember “it takes a village to raise an idiot.” The North Sentintel island people have effectively existed for a long time. If your goal was to become an opera singer, it probably would not be your first choice of tribes. Our nature is both competitive and cooperative so some level of tribalism will happen. Dividing ourselves into teams or tribes may be juvenile but soccer is not much fun without an opposing team. I understand that you are confused by people who advertise their love affair with destructive devices. I believe some are merely putting labels on as casually as the people who have YETI stickers. Some are as mature as we were when we advertised Van Halen or Vans as kids. Some are desperately trying to get fear and respect (insert compensation joke).

Like I mentioned I try to limit my branding since I think of myself as a motorcycle enthusiast rather than a biker or Harley dude. I like skateboards and mine was covered in stickers when I was a kid. Now the free sticker that came with the product may end up on things but for the most part I display charities and organizations that I support. I proudly display my nation's flag since I am a true believer in the tenants of the declaration and the idea that our rights are not granted by humans but because we are human. The founding fathers spent a lot of time formulating a form of government that is designed for flawed humans that is why it is so cumbersome. Mao, Hitler, Stalin, Pol Pot and countless other have designed and/or run more efficient forms of government but that only means the tyranny happens faster.

I am branded with a wedding band since my fidelity is public and private. It was great to hear from you. I asked for your email since I was unsure I had sent the firearm links.

Love,

Ronney

Successful Feedback

Successful Feedback

We all wish other people would just do what we say and then their problems would go away. Whether it is our friends, family or co-workers we often think we see the solution clearly. When we are teaching our children skills, like potty training, the message sometimes gets turned around and they learn the wrong lesson. "Tell me when you have to use the bathroom" is misunderstood and they lie to cover the offense. Telling the truth is more important than not soiling their pants but they do not understand.

The first principle is to remain calm and remember we do not control other people's attitude. Focus on the behavior. This is tricky because one of the most important lessons we can teach is keeping a good attitude. The best way to do this is, of course, by modeling. Remaining calm is harder than people give it credit. The more you care about the person the harder it is and I have no tricks to make it easier.

Constantly correcting people can discourage them and give them the idea that "I am never good enough." "You are always picking on me." This often leads either to depression or rebellion. One way to provide feedback is to sandwich the area for improvement with positive traits. Warm fuzzy, cold prickly, warm fuzzy. "You are so smart, I wish you would poo in the potty, you are great." It is important to be sincere, trust is essential.

Now, there are times that call for direct, cold, harsh words but those are rare indeed. DO NOT TOUCH THE STOVE!

I would like to give useful advise on how to help you give effective feedback but I am just another human. I think this way: Do I care about this person? Are they ready to listen? Am I ready to listen? Do I really have THE answer? Please share your thoughts.

From the Air Force

1. Determine the objective of the counseling before the session begins.

2. Hear the individual out.

3. Treat the member as having worth and dignity.

4. Show sincerity, courtesy, and personal interest in the individual.

5. Give the individual the facts, whether they are pleasant or unpleasant.

6. Don't brush off any problem as being too trivial.

7. Don't make snap decisions.

8. Don't make promises if you can't keep them.

9. Don't force decisions on the person - there may be other equally good and acceptable solutions.

10. Refer to other agencies.

11. Make contact for the individual with the referral agency.

12. Follow up referrals to make sure there is a continuity of action and that referrals are completed as soon as possible

Rich Herold

 

Rich Herold

Long ago, when I was a young student in High School I met a man, a teacher, a mentor, role model and ultimately friend.

In a room full of teenagers each with their own agenda and yearning to be noticed, or struggling to escape notice the maestro told us tales of the days of yore. Weaving the tapestry of human drama in all it's glory and gore he spoke like a shaman, sage and scholar. Inspiring many young minds to seek more he demonstrated the path to wisdom and knowledge. Over the years we learned of our past, the good, the bad and the ugly. He was a renaissance man in the space age and in a strange quirk of fate, or perhaps it was intentional, his peers offered us the tools to grow. History can be a dry subject but the struggle for enlightenment and liberty are inspirational. My mind was filled with dreams of girls and adventure and the faculty showed me a path that I remain on to this day.

How can I find truth? What technical subjects will help me better understand the physical world and how to manipulate it? What does it mean to be civilized? What are the moral implications?

Rich Herold threw a stone into the pond of knowledge and the ripples, nay waves, continue to rock the generations.

Mind, body, and soul

 

Mind, body, and soul

Life is short. “The story of my life” can be a mournful lament or a song of joyful praise. Some of it has to do with what we do, most of it has to do with how we react. People often say “as long as it makes you happy” when referring to choices. Happiness is a fickle feeling that ebbs and flows. Joy is a state of being. The universe is not fair and the cards we are dealt are just that, the circumstances we find ourselves. How can we play the cards for the best outcome?

Our mind is a powerful tool. Learning to use it is a lifetime challenge. Problem solving, playing games, and learning are ways to keep sharp. Cognitive decline is inevitable, but we can slow the rate. It is indeed harder to learn as we age but, wisdom can come with experience. The “voices in our head” can be powerful assets or horrible obstacles. The stereotypical self-help guru chanting affirmations in the mirror has some merit. Harnessing the background noise can provide stability. “My mind is quite, I am at peace.” is a useful mantra. Learning internal silence is one of the most challenging and rewarding skills a human with a brain can acquire. It is beyond the scope of this essay but, start with meditation and observation. Part of most meditation methods include focused breath control.

The body is the vessel in which our mind resides and oxygen is essential. The breath of life indeed. Our mental health is tied directly to the physical. The biological process of converting fuel and oxygen to energy, movement and structure is incredible. Things we can do to become the most effective and efficient creature include exercise, nutrition and rest. Our bodies, like our minds do best with consistent healthy movement. Just a little daily movement is more beneficial than going nuts and over-exercising randomly. Challenging yourself is not wrong but, understand that running a marathon is hard on the body and recovery is essential. Strength, flexibility and endurance are the elements of a fitness program. Fuel for the machine is important.

Nutrition is a complex subject. “You are what you eat, from your head down to your feet” so eating junk will make you feel like junk. Simple guidelines are to eat food, mainly vegetables, if it comes from a plant eat it, if it was made in a plant pass.

The soul is a component many people deny or gloss over. The concept that we exist beyond our mortal shell is deep. The thought of eternal consequences for our actions is daunting. One can struggle with the concept but, I quit fighting and accepted it as true. Descartes has an illuminating discussion. Being “right with the universe” is a phrase that although overused has power. I find that the question: “is there a God?” boils down to yes or no. I choose yes. Intellectually it is debatable, viscerally I find it self-evident. If you are ready sincerely pray: “God if you are real, show me.”

Assuming that God exists one is presented with the challenge of the nature of God. I wondered and searched. The choice of an all powerful being outside of time and space that created the universe with a purpose, and thus, me for a purpose was my conclusion. Many faiths have many routes. I heard the Gospel many times but, never really internalized it for decades. The transformation is incredible. I no longer just live for myself. Prayer is a conduit to peace. Even if you do not believe the power of speaking sets your feeble human mind on a path. If you seek wisdom you may find it. It is often not the answer you were looking for but, the one you need.

The Fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge. As I studied I was not sure if I was the evil created for the day of wrath. I have evolved to understand that fire ants have a purpose and so do I. Grace is liberating and healing. Passing it on is powerful and provides eternal joy. Understanding that God loves us and we are created to share that with creation. There are some harder concepts I struggle with like my strong survival instincts and the morality of ending another being's life.

I ponder my mission daily. Better a warrior in the garden than a gardener in battle. Being in nature is good for the soul. If you are silent you may hear. If you make noise make it joyful.

Is flying safe?

 

Is flying safe?

A friend of mine has a family member who is concerned about flight safety so here is my take. Is flying safe? In a word, no. But that depends on how you define “safe.” If safe means no risk then few things meet that standard. “Does flying have an acceptable level of risk?” is a more reasonable question. We will restrict our discussion to airline travel in the United States.

As a pilot we speak about risk management. It is a systematic way of analyzing potentially hazardous activities and managing the risks. We start by looking at the severity of a category of risk and addressing the most catastrophic things first. We must also balance this by understanding the likelihood of events. A single engine failure on a aircraft with two engines has potentially severe consequences if not managed precisely. The likelihood of such an event is statistically low but since the stakes are high we train extensively on these scenarios. I will outline risk management without too much technical jargon.

The first rule is to accept no unnecessary risk. That infers that there are necessary risks. So how safe is air travel? As far as risks go it is well managed. Dividing risks into different areas helps to recognize and thus better plan for ways to mitigate risks and trap errors. Let us look at the pilot, the aircraft, the environment and the operation. We will briefly look at each area.

The pilot includes all crew members. We tend to fly with at least a pilot, a co-pilot, flight attendants and perhaps other personnel. The aircrew works as a team. Airline operations require at least two pilots. They are extensively trained and evaluated on a regular basis. Our cabin crew is an extremely valuable part of the equation. Flight attendants are there primarily for the safety of the passengers. All US aircraft have to be able to evacuate in less than two minutes. They practice these procedures regularly but you probably do not. So the next time the flight attendant gives a safety briefing, pay attention since they are going to help everyone get off the aircraft.

Modern aircraft are robust designs with multiple redundant safety systems in place. Maintenance personnel are extensively trained and conduct regular inspections and preventive maintenance to ensure airworthiness. The aircrew and ramp personnel also inspect the aircraft before and after every flight. The aircraft is designed and tested to fly with one engine. We tend to have triple redundancy designed into many critical components. For example, we have three independent altimeters and only one is required. During our recurrent training we practice multiple scenarios many of which are modeled after previous events.

The environment presents many hazards. Thunderstorms, snow, ice, and congested airspace are a few of the factors to consider. A common mitigation strategy is exemplified by how we handle low clouds and reduced visibility. If the weather at the destination is below certain standards we have to plan for an alternate destination far enough away to have better weather. This includes adding extra fuel. Sometimes a flight will be “weight restricted” and we cannot fill every seat because we have to carry extra fuel. During our recurrent training we are trained and evaluated in the simulator for very challenging conditions.

Finally the operation dictates much of the residual risk and ultimately the level of “safety.” There are several layers of planning and oversight for every flight. The dispatcher plans every flight applying all the procedures for the primary airport, the alternate if required, the route, fuel and load planning. At many airlines there is a separate department obsessing over planning the loads. The aircrew reviews the dispatched plan and makes the final decision to conduct the flight or consults with dispatch to make appropriate changes. External organizations such as air traffic control, airport personnel, and TSA provide an added layer of oversight and control.

A large number of highly trained professionals are working hard to make sure airline operations are “safe.” We realize that we can only manage risk to an acceptable level and each component has fallible humans involved. We are taught to use checklists and other methods such as challenge and reply to trap errors. An example would be when the pilot monitoring says “landing gear” the other pilot responds “down three green.” This may seem simple and redundant but actually having both crew members confirm that an item is properly configured minimizes and/or traps errors.

When I was teaching people to fly I would tell them “There is nothing hard about flying; two or three hundred really easy things that will kill you if you do not get them right, but, nothing hard.” Is flying safe? The safest airplane is the one sitting in the hanger but that is not why airplanes were built. 'Is taking an airline flight an acceptable risk?' is a more realistic question.

Live forever or die today

 

Live forever or die today

A good friend of mine remarked that if he caught the virus today it would likely mean isolation, and since he is in the “at risk population,” likely death in isolation. He said “You know I may never see my wife and kids again, and that would suck.”

In my earlier incarnation as a paratrooper we were intimately aware of our mortality. They took our footprints and put it in our medical records because boots tend to stay together even in spectacularly catastrophic events. As science and technology advanced, they collected DNA samples since the blood mist and chunks of goo contain your essence and we can tell who is dead, who is presumed dead and who is missing. We were encouraged to have a will and they provided free legal advice, and of course, at first my mama was the sole beneficiary. Live fast die young was not only punk lyrics but a lifestyle. I was more concerned with the thrill of the moment until condition X and then, trying to find an accomplice to have a momentary thrill.

God blessed me with a wife. He may have cursed my wife with me, you will have to ask her. The birth of our children rattled my perspective even more. Humans, guilty of only being born were dependent on my good judgment. An insane woman, but I repeat myself, hitched her wagon to me. The deaths and gruesome injuries experienced by my co-workers cemented the reality that “You know I may never see my wife and kids again, and that would suck.” The fact that I commuted to work on a motorcycle on All American Freeway and later a bicycle on Yadkin road was probably more hazardous than any of my paratrooper antics. My wife recognized the reality of my mortality and too often another fatality in the units would hammer that home.

Early on we determined to part on a good note. Even when we were angry at each other we would kiss and say “I love you” when I left for work. In the days before cell phones and the internet we would be unable to communicate for extended periods of time. Standing in line at the pay phone with 300 hundred other dudes waiting to get their 5 minute call sucked. It really sucked when you did not get through, we sing songs about Jody. Long separations, stressful lives, divorce, and death; good thing I like heavy metal. It sucked worse when you got in a fight on the phone! “Life sucks and then you die” has some ring of truth. The long lost art of hand written letters could allow people to share deep thoughts, or not. Long shifts on silent watch can allow deep thoughts, or not. The deepest thoughts are often the hardest to express and sizzle with even deeper feelings.

Reuniting often brought joy. Embrace those few precious moments before the harsh realities of daily existence intrude. When you part company with people you care about let them know you love them.

Four Fundamentals

 

Four Fundamentals

The four fundamentals of flight are: straight and level, turns, climbs and descents. It is vital that a pilot grasp these basics since all subsequent maneuvers are merely combinations and variations on a theme.

This is one of the first flight lessons and should be FUN. At the beginning of the training process people are generally overwhelmed and will only retain a portion of the information presented to them. A good briefing helps and if you can get the student to read ahead it can greatly increase performance. On the other side of the equation the student is chomping at the bit to get down to business and may not be receptive to a long drawn out explanation.

I tell the pilot “the recurring theme is pitch + power = performance.” There are other procedures we are introducing/reinforcing that will, if all goes as planned, become habitual.

Collision avoidance techniques and verbalizing “Clear left” “Clear right” prior to turning will increase the chance of seeing and avoiding other traffic and birds. I teach pilots to lower the nose and check for traffic at 500 AGL and then the top and bottom of the altimeter. After I observe that they are aware of their altitude and are indeed looking for traffic I will advise them to “try to do it in a straight line” as we discuss the need for rudder to compensate for p-factor and other left turning tendencies.

We will continue to practice the three-way positive exchange of flight controls. I make it a point to state that someone should be flying the aircraft the entire flight and the person who thinks they are flying should be the one flying. There are modifications of this concept such as “follow me through on the controls” when introducing or elaborating on a maneuver. Or “I am on the controls with you” when minor last minute corrections are needed such as a gusty crosswind approach. It is important that as much as possible you let the pilot make inputs without interference. This does not mean that you should not guard the controls. Keeping your hand staged behind the control yoke making it impossible to rapidly increase the angle of attack when doing so would be disastrous.

Firearms and self-defense

Firearms and self-defense

Current events have prompted people to arm themselves. Several of my friends and relatives have asked me for advice. I am not a firearm or self-defense expert. I am an enthusiastic lifelong student. Protecting your life and liberty is your responsibility. Society and governments are methods to ensure safety. It is rare to find someone who values your interests as deeply as you. As parents and spouses we are often the last line of protection. Let us explore the gun as a tool, discuss effective proficiency and touch on the moral/legal implications.

A gun is a tool that can put holes in things at a distance. Paper, prey and people are the most common things that may need holes. As one would not use a screw driver to cut down a tree selecting the correct tool for the mission is the first step. A hunting rifle designed to harvest large game is not appropriate for daily concealed carry. A snub nose revolver would be a poor choice for long range target shooting. Most of the inquiries I am fielding are people interested in self protection. Again refining the focus towards home security or personal protection while out and about may dictate the type of precautions and possibly the weapons systems we choose.

Most of the people asking for advice are primarily focusing on concealed carry options. Open carry may be an option to consider but that comes with an entirely different set of risk/benefit parameters. If one should choose the concealed carry option things to consider are comfort and reliability. A weapon on the nightstand or in the safe does you no good if you are assaulted at the gas station. The point is that if you intend on carrying make it a habit.

Speaking of habits weapons safety is paramount. Having a powerful destructive tool comes with a considerable responsibility. You must consider if you are willing to commit to practicing until you are effective. Effectiveness can be measured in various ways but eliminating the threat is a good starting point. Realistic focused and consistent practice will help your mechanical skills become smooth. These are indeed martial arts and mental clarity is essential. Imagine yourself “on-duty” when taking up arms thus impairment, either chemical or emotional is counter-productive.

Finally, one must consider the moral and legal implications of violence. Even if you did everything correct and attempted to take the peaceful route you may have to kill. There is a difference between murder and killing. Often it is semantics and is determined in a court of law. When preparing for battle determine in advance your “rules of engagement.” Think about how the worst-case scenario will play out post engagement. This may influence your weapon choice thinking of how a scary “assault rifle” may be presented in the courtroom vice an equally effective lever gun.

Arming yourself with a firearm should be part of a comprehensive strategy. Consider the threats and your exposure. Criminals and tyrants are both dissuaded by an armed populace. There are many layers of deterrence and levels of response. Locking your doors, avoiding the “bad” part of town, proper lighting can make you a harder target. Screaming and running away are possible responses to threats. Refusing to be a passive victim is a choice.

One of the side effects of 2020 has been the fact that more people are understanding our “gun culture.” Shooting sports bring great joy to my life but the purpose behind the practicing is to better prepare me to defend myself, my family, and my nation as I grow physically weaker with age.

Raising Honorable Children

 

Raising Honorable Children

There are no overnight fixes or simple solutions to raising honorable children. As a parent one can do everything correctly and still fail since humans make their own choices. Now that I let you off the hook let us be brutally honest. Leadership is by example and your example is likely the route your children will follow. Hypocrisy breeds contempt and “do as I say, not as I do” fosters more rebellion than normal. Knowing that teen rebellion is a hallowed tradition in our society may help prepare you to better deal with the trauma/drama. Defining what traits are honorable is essential prior to discussing how to foster those attributes. The fear of God, treating other beings with respect, and becoming a productive member of society are three worthy hallmarks of honorable people. Let us explore these concepts.

The fear of God is core to proper behavior. That is not to say that atheists can not display proper behavior. The concept of eternal consequences for our deeds, thoughts and actions will tend to guide us. Greater than just “will I get caught?” is the concept that my intentions have ramifications. To believe that God created the universe and cares how we treat it holds more weight than practical considerations like “if I pollute my watershed it will kill me.” Understanding the universe is a complicated concept and acknowledging that pain, suffering and death are part of the process causes much personal confusion. I must eat to survive, my life is tied to the death of other living things, even plants. Critters like mosquitoes, wolves and ants have a purpose and thus a right to exist. The survival instinct is within created beings. Indiscriminate killing is not an approved method of living as I understand my place in the universe. However eating the flesh of animals is within my moral compass. I should however, honor the creatures I raise with a comfortable and, if able, a happy life prior to their consumption. If I harvest creatures from the wild I should only take that which is necessary, consume it gratefully, not be wasteful and consider the management of the ecosystem. This is only one facet of how the fear of God can affect us.

Treating others with respect is best modeled rather than preached. The way we treat people is how our children will treat people. This can be tough since speaking ill of others is so tempting. Society tends to divide us by color, class, wealth and any other method available. Divide and conquer is one of the oldest tricks in the book. Respecting people does not mean tolerating negative behavior. Treating a threatening individual with respect means acknowledging their right and desire to exist even if one has to act on the behavior. Words are not violence. Them's fighting words has it's place in the universe but not often. Fear, weakness and capitulation are not the hallmarks of respect. One must not tolerate the brute nor fold in the face of adversity. It is a challenge to a civilized human to treat savage behavior in an appropriate manner. How you treat people of lower status, especially when there is no advantage or witnesses is a true indication.

This is one of the keys to being a productive member of society. Protecting the weak. Feeding the hungry. Lifting the downtrodden without enabling negative destructive behavior. Productivity can be measured by your impact on your community. Little things like picking up litter matter. Self sufficiency is a start. Once your personal needs are met building your community is the next step. Honoring your ancestors is part of the process. Since they were humans they have honorable traits and probably some brutal legacies. Pick up the honorable ones and try not to contribute to the brutality. Since the title infers children building a strong family is the core of society. That begins with your immediate family. Not all people have all elements of family. If you have a partner that is the most important human relationship you have. Many people prioritize the children over their partner which I believe is a mistake. The love and respect demonstrated by the parents forms the basis for a solid framework that children will model. We are human and conflict is natural. Learning how to deal with disagreements is tough. Demonstrate forgiveness and humility. Much easier said than done.

In short, modeling honorable behavior is how to raise honorable children.

Psychological Industry

 

Psychological Industry

The first day of medical school the teacher says “A patient cured is a customer lost.” The healing arts can be a great benefit to society but, since humans are involved results are mixed. The study of mental and behavioral processes is indeed an interesting field of study. When pursuing my PhD several realities became apparent. The social sciences are known as the 'soft sciences' because the difference between a chemical process that has repeatable, precise, empirical results the soft science are not as clear cut. If you speak about your experiences and it changes your behavior is that a result of therapy or an internal decision? In other words it is difficult to determine that 17 minutes of therapy will reduce your depression by 9% with any accuracy. Here are some thoughts and insights from a student of the human condition.

The DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) is the “bible” of psychology, outlining what is a mental disorder. Over the years cultural influences have changed what is defined as a mental illness. Not that long ago homosexuality and gender dysphoria were defined as mental disorders. It is valid to try and define “abnormal behavior” and apply the scientific method to studying and perhaps changing that behavior. Not everything abnormal is bad. An individual that is musically gifted or a theoretical physicist are not “normal” but bring gifts that improve society. A person with out empathy that manipulates or murders for sport is also not “normal” but and that behavior is detrimental.

Some of the benefits of studying behavior and mental processes include discovering that some behaviors maybe indeed chemical imbalances. The major issue with “Western” medicine in general is that treating symptoms is easier than resolving the cause. Prescribing medication to control gout rather than changing lifestyle. The trap many people discover is that the medication that makes the spots disappear has side effects that require more drugs to mask. Many people end up taking multiple drugs for the rest of their lives.

Psychotherapy is another method to help people deal with behavioral issues. “You will feel better if you just talk about it.” This can be true. My observation of the industry is that the therapist is often only marginally more adapted to society than their clients. Psychologists have the fourth highest suicide rate among health care professionals. There are many possible causes of this phenomenon. Regardless some people benefit from the practice and others are caught in an endless cycle that never “cures” them and provides a steady income to an entire industry.

In my humble opinion many therapists provide people what they want, only a few give them what they need. Some people want to change their behavior and many others are looking for an excuse to continue their behavior. If you are diagnosed with bablygook and thus not to blame for your actions you are free to continue doom scrolling in isolation and take drugs to mask your depression. This is a highly profitable course of action for the industry since you will require continual treatment. On the other hand, if changing the way you interpret your bosses' advice allows you to forgive them and improves your outlook on life that is a win.

Seeking help is a sign of strength. With many advisors better decisions are possible. The wisdom to choose the correct course of action is the challenge. My assessment of the helping industry is that it may have benefit but requires discretion. Unfortunately, when you are in the midst of the storm any port seems safe. Many people are trapped in unhealthy cycles of behavior that can be profitable to others. There are however mental disorders that benefit from the industry and the study of human behavior may continue to prove useful.

Cultural Appropriation

 

Cinco de Mayo and Saint Patrick's Day are excuses to get drunk and over eat. That is the American way. My mother was born in Mexico. I was not taught Spanish because my grandparents wanted us to fit in. My family heritage includes Germans, Scott's-Irish, English. French, Spanish, and Indian (feather, not dot). I did the genetic test and my blood reflects the oral traditions and includes a smattering of African and Jewish heritage. I am 100% 'merican. I imagine Spanish conquistadors picking up local wives and producing hungry warriors meanwhile up north the colonists were interbreeding with all the cold, tired, and hungry immigrants. A grand time was had by all. Farming, fornicating and fighting their children met in Texas and murdered each other. The result of raping and pillaging is that your grandchildren look like your former enemy and most people can not hate their grand-kids.

So even though my Scottish Uncle McDonald in Mexico (does not have a farm) does not understand the big deal, eat some tacos, drink some tequila and party with your neighbors.

If you can, learn the language of your ancestors and teach your offspring. Latin is a great start.

“What do you call someone who can speak three languages?” 'Trilingual.'

“What do you call someone who can speak two languages?” 'Bilingual.'

“What do you call someone who speaks one language poorly?” 'Merican

“What do you call someone who can speak a language but not read and write it.” 'Illiterate.'

“What is the difference between a red-neck and a Mexican?” 'bout three miles.”

E pluribus unum.

With malice toward none (I did not write this)

 

Fellow-Countrymen:

At this second appearing to take the oath of the Presidential office there is less occasion for an extended address than there was at the first. Then a statement somewhat in detail of a course to be pursued seemed fitting and proper. Now, at the expiration of four years, during which public declarations have been constantly called forth on every point and phase of this great conflict which is of primary concern to the nation as a whole, little that is new could be presented. The progress of our arms, upon which all else chiefly depends, is as well known to the public as to myself, and it is, I trust, reasonably satisfactory and encouraging to all. With high hope for the future, no prediction in regard to it is ventured.

On the occasion corresponding to this four years ago all thoughts were anxiously directed to an impending civil war. All dreaded it, all sought to avert it. While the inaugural address was being delivered from this place, devoted altogether to saving the Union without war, insurgent agents were in the city seeking to destroy it without war—seeking to dissolve the Union and divide effects by negotiation. Both parties deprecated war, but one of them would make war rather than let the nation survive, and the other would accept war rather than let it perish. And the war came.

One-eighth of the whole population were colored slaves, not distributed generally over the Union, but localized in the southern part of it. These slaves constituted a peculiar and powerful interest. All knew that this interest was somehow the cause of the war. To strengthen, perpetuate, and extend this interest was the object for which the insurgents would rend the Union even by war, while the Government claimed no right to do more than to restrict the territorial enlargement of it. Neither party expected for the war the magnitude or the duration which it has already attained. Neither anticipated that the cause of the conflict might cease with or even before the conflict itself should cease. Each looked for an easier triumph, and a result less fundamental and astounding. Both read the same Bible and pray to the same God, and each invokes His aid against the other. It may seem strange that any men should dare to ask a just God's assistance in wringing their bread from the sweat of other men's faces, but let us judge not, that we be not judged. The prayers of both could not be answered. That of neither has been answered fully. The Almighty has His own purposes. "Woe unto the world because of offenses; for it must needs be that offenses come, but woe to that man by whom the offense cometh." If we shall suppose that American slavery is one of those offenses which, in the providence of God, must needs come, but which, having continued through His appointed time, He now wills to remove, and that He gives to both North and South this terrible war as the woe due to those by whom the offense came, shall we discern therein any departure from those divine attributes which the believers in a living God always ascribe to Him? Fondly do we hope, fervently do we pray, that this mighty scourge of war may speedily pass away. Yet, if God wills that it continue until all the wealth piled by the bondsman's two hundred and fifty years of unrequited toil shall be sunk, and until every drop of blood drawn with the lash shall be paid by another drawn with the sword, as was said three thousand years ago, so still it must be said "the judgments of the Lord are true and righteous altogether."

With malice toward none, with charity for all, with firmness in the right as God gives us to see the right, let us strive on to finish the work we are in, to bind up the nation's wounds, to care for him who shall have borne the battle and for his widow and his orphan, to do all which may achieve and cherish a just and lasting peace among ourselves and with all nations.[7]

—Abraham Lincoln

Psychology, therapy and resilience

 Asking for help is a sign of strength. Despite the trappings of science very little social sciences is based on solid irrefutable data. Humans are tremendously resilient and vary in their coping mechanisms. For examples “stages of grief” and “levels of learning” are merely cognitive concepts that help us understand processes. This is unlike the direct measurement of pH levels and how it affects nutrient absorption.

The standards of “mental health” are a human construct. Not that long ago homosexuality was classified as a mental illness by the psychological community. That is not to say that real behavioral issues can be understood by the application of the scientific method. Chemical imbalances, brain tissue damage are areas we can positively diagnose and treat.

Happiness and other more nebulous conditions are harder to define and thus, easier to diagnose at the will of the provider. The medical industry including the mental health divisions tend to treat symptoms rather than cure root causes. If one becomes a repeat paying customer the incentive to “fix” the problem is not the highest priority.

Be aware that the person providing the treatment and/or advice is as human as you. Often their education and training is not as extensive as you imagine. There is real value in seeking treatment and advise. Objective, wise and compassionate council is truly valuable. Use caution since not that long ago electroshock therapy and lobotomies were considered leading edge treatment.

Taking control of your life

The illusion of control is important to humans. We love to pretend we are in charge of how our lives turn out. The facts don't matter. Preparation, hard work and talent do tend to sway the odds but fate, luck, and timing can take it all away or grant us magnificent opulence.

The one thing we can control is how we react. It is a constant battle that takes discipline. The space between our ears is the essence of our experience. Instead of proclaiming that “I am angry” turn it into a verb, “I am angering.” This subtle shift makes me take responsibility for the emotion rather than imagining that I am a leaf caught in a tide. Society in general shuns responsibility and glorifies the emotion itself. “Falling in love” like it is a mud puddle or “I am depressed” like it is a hole.

The challenge is to reflect on our internal dialogue, determine the source, and either strike at the root, or accept the mental and emotional state. “I am angering because I am hungry, tired, stressed or lonely. Then the choice becomes accept the anger and use it, or eat, and perhaps quell the emotion. Some of the deeper sources of emotional turmoil require profound changes. Poor diet and sleep habits are challenges that can be addressed with considerable effort. A lack of purpose is much more formidable. Nietzsche is one option. Since he went insane and committed suicide so I do not choose his philosophy.

Direct actions and habits to improve the quality of life include focusing on your diet: mental, physical and spiritual. “You are what you eat” is an axiom that applies. Slight changes add up. I try to drink water before my morning coffee. I love to eat! I often eat when I am bored, putting healthier choices in my way makes it more likely that I will eat fruits instead of chips. The stuff you put in your brain matters. Read and watch things that help feed your mind. Try to learn new stuff. Devoting 15 minutes a day to a new skill has helped me acquire many circus tricks. Silence is good for you. My mother meditates regularly. I tend to use monotonous tasks as an outlet to silence my big brain and allow me to engage in the flow of the universe. Running, walking, driving, motorcycle riding, surfing, weeding, mowing are examples of “boring” tasks that require various layers of concentration that can open the Zen of the moment. Subtle changes in the environment have been revolutionary in altering my mood. Opening the window shades, cleaning up clutter, a photo, and music can all shift the background influences in the positive direction.

So, you want to be an airline pilot

 I am often asked how to become an airline pilot. Each individual has their own motivations and part of the equation is to determine why and that will guide them. Money, lifestyle and the love of aviation are common reasons to become a pilot. I caution them that the industry is very volatile and stability is uncertain. One day the job market is great and they are hiring like crazy with good compensation and the next furloughs and bankruptcies are common. The effects of COVID are the latest example. I try to steer people away from incurring large debt and establishing a solid back up plan, that is learning a skill that does not depend on the airline industry.

With that being said there are several ways to get the ratings and certificates with the adage of “quick, good and cheap; pick two” applying to the journey. The military offers training that is good and cheap to the individual but comes with a time commitment. Explore all the branches including the guard and reserve. Aviation colleges and universities offer good training but the price is high. There are many options from community colleges to four-year institutions. UND, Liberty, Embry-Riddle. If this is the route one chooses; get a degree, rating or minor that allows non-flying opportunities. Aviation schools are a fast option but tend to have an equally high cost. Some of the big names are ATP, flight safety and others.

This is where we start to talk about the difference between part 61 and 141, the FAA regulations that govern pilot training. Part 61 has more flexibility but requires more hours. Part 141 is very structured, requires less hours but has some challenges. The fast routes tend to have relatively new instructors that are building their experience and may not be seasoned enough to deal with learning plateaus. Part 61 has tremendous variety and can range from a large flying club or school to a single airplane with a single instructor at an airport or grass strip. A recent additional route are ab-intro academies sponsored or run by the airlines. My knowledge of these programs is limited. European countries have used this model for years.

The path for civilian qualifications is student pilot, private pilot, instrument rating, commercial pilot and airline transport pilot. The instructor rating is generally part of the progression. At some point a multi-engine rating is required. The commercial rating is required before you can get paid for flying and the ATP rating is required to fly for the airlines. The ATP rating requires 1500 hours with some exceptions. The airlines will assist pilots with 1500 hours in completing the ATP rating.

I would advise people to sign up with AOPA, it is free for the first six months. Also explore the FAA website since it provides all the training standards and reference materials. Mutilple scholarships are available to the motivated. I learned through a military flying club and took several years before I had the required ratings.

I was blessed to be a member of the Wings of Carolina Flying Club. At the time we had about a dozen airplanes and around 300 members. When I initially had the hours for an airline job the pay was not lucrative enough to pry me away. Over ten years of teaching at the club I was able to help several people on their journey to airline pilot. It is possible to progress rapidly but, it requires a commitment from both the student and instructor(s). Three to five lessons a week with an understanding that weather cancellations mean ground school and/or simulator time to keep progressing. When the weather precluded other students from utilizing my time we could fill in the gaps. For example when a private student was scheduled for cross country work and the weather was below VFR we could work in an instrument lesson. Part of the beauty of the club is that a dedicated individual can learn from multiple sources. The love of aviation runs high at the club and it is easy to talk other instructors into substitute teaching when the primary instructor schedule does not align. Several of our club alumni spent time learning at maintenance night and other club events and now they wear airline uniforms.

One of the coolest thing about mixing with the people at the club is that not all of them became airline pilots. Some are NASA researchers, military aviators, air traffic controllers, dispatchers and AMTs. There are others that took other paths and design websites. The beauty of learning at the club is that there is no pressure to conform to a certain career path. But, if you want it we can work on it.

Happiness in the real world

 Several years ago, I got a DUI. It was a significant emotional event. I was very depressed and my buddy Walter Morgan took me out to lunch. He listened to me whine for a while and then said “Ronney, you are an asshole.”

I responded “Thanks Walt, that is just what I needed.”

He said “If you got divorced and were kicked out of the Air Force you could and probably would bounce back. THAT bastard has a reason to whine.” pointing at a dude in a wife beater sitting on the porch of his run-down South Carolina red neck trailer.

“Stand up, do a triage on yourself and drive on.”

I began a long journey, searching my soul, reading multiple books and reflecting on the deeper meaning of life. I was sent to the Air Force drunk class so I had a few days without distraction. It was around this time that my son was learning how to get up and dress himself. One day he came into the room very early in the morning and loudly announced “Dad, I woke up!” In my sleepy decaffeinated nicotine deprived grumpy state I wanted to respond negatively but, I did not. Love is a powerful thing. I said “That is awesome!”

I began to think “Ronney, you need to be grateful that you woke up, you are alive and that means you have a chance.” A chance to do what?

One of the books I read was “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective people.” I recommend reading it. One of the book's more powerful exercises was to develop a mission statement with the thought of what will people say at your funeral. Think about your legacy, how you effect the world and the people around you. Although I have revisited it many times my personal mission statement remains fairly constant.

Concurrent with the soul searching and focused reading was a realization of how blessed I am. I started to think of ways to serve those less fortunate, not to give them handouts but a hand up. I started tutoring with the community college as a volunteer. I was teaching adults to read. It was amazing because I got to help some amazing people. One was a welder who had to find employment since the Charleston Naval Shipyard was cutting back. This man had done more for his country than I and was in dire straits since he was functionally illiterate. That is to say he could navigate through life but, missed out on so many nuances since he could barely read. Another was an 80-year preacher who wanted to read the Bible to his grand-kids. He had memorized the Bible. Soon the staff realized I was able to teach math and I began to tutor adult GED students.

When I focused on serving others and being a conduit for God's grace, I did not have time to reflect on the slings and arrows of my misfortunes. Living life with a larger purpose than my own sniveling needs keeps me busy and keeps my perspective grounded in the reality that I am not the center of the universe. My life journey has taken many turns since and I learned forgiveness. I remain a flawed selfish creature that fails daily but I learned to forgive even myself and concentrate on my mission. I am not living for myself anymore. It is strange that since I started focusing on the eternal and external, I have come to appreciate my present existence and generally have internal peace.

Your mission will be different than mine but formulating what you think it is will be a worthwhile exercise. If you internalize your mission, it gives you purpose. Dealing with the inevitable setbacks and stresses of life are easier when you have a larger goal. I tend to use exercise, prayer and action to manage my stress. Action can be as simple as gardening, playing with critters, motorcycle riding, shooting or as complex as flying.

There is a God, you ain't him (nor am I)

 I do not care what you believe, or more accurately, I do not care very deeply. It is between you and God. One of the fundamental questions in life is the nature of our self. Do we exist only in the flesh and cease consciousness when we die? Descartes pondered the eternal and came up with the postulate that if you do exist forever and act as if you do not then you would likely regret your actions, but if you do not exist forever then there is no harm in living your life as if it has consequences.

Do you believe in God? It seems to be a yes or no question although some agnostics want to sidestep the question. If your answer is no then why not act only in your own interests? In that universe, to quote a good friend, we are only self-aware dirt in transition. An accident happened with no real purpose and we exist only for a breath and then we are no more. A most dangerous prayer is to sincerely ask “God, if you are real, show me.”

If you find you believe in God what is His nature? Humans often ascribe our sense of morality on the eternal. We think we are the arbitrators of right and wrong. If there is an all powerful God that created the universe who are we to question motives? A speck of dust on a speck of dust screaming “it's not fair.” The Bible reveals God's nature. One of the recurring themes is the beginning of wisdom is the fear of God. Fearing the consequences of our words, deeds and thoughts. Whether we want to or not we will be judged. God is holy and perfect, against that standard we fail. The old testament is full of rules and sacrifices to atone for breaking those rules. The Jewish people were constantly presenting sacrifices to atone for their sins. In the new testament God sent Jesus to earth to provide an everlasting payment for the sins of mankind. You only need to believe in Him as your savior. It seems like an easy deal, and it is, but you are expected to repent and turn away from your sins and live a new life.

Failing to live up to the standard is not the end of your journey. We are in a constant battle between our natural tendency to rebel and the Holy Spirit's divine grace. God will use you to fulfill His purpose, “Even the wicked are made for the day of disaster.” I do not pretend to understand why we are given free-will AND our destiny is preordained. I know my rebellious selfish nature is wrong and I fall short. I know God helps me to know the difference and sometimes I choose correctly.

More thoughts on prayer

 

Prayer is NOT a replacement for medical or psychological treatment. As far as I have observed and experienced prayer does not work as a wish granting device. Pain and suffering may be part of your life despite praying for relief. You can not pray your way out of the earthly consequences of your behavior. Asking for forgiveness and expressing regret is NOT repentance. Prayer supplements rather than replaces hard work and preparation. Prayer is not an excuse for inaction. Both good people and evil people pray. Everyone dies.

My thoughts on prayer

 Prayer is a way for us to speak to God. I am sure that God does not care if you use certain words or strike certain poses. He knows your heart so sincerity is probably the only criteria. The Bible tells us to pray continuously.

Since God spoke the universe into existence I believe verbalizing is powerful. The very act of speaking takes effort and the sound of your voice resonates within you. Praying publicly is scary. It is weird to think that we worry about what other humans think when we are addressing God, but we do. The Quakers are a sect of Christianity that endorses silent prayer. So much so that they quake in silence. Many other belief systems pray. It seems that elaborate ceremonial procedures can help people get closer to God. I try not to judge others on their methods or connection since I am just a human.

The benefit of prayer is documented in secular and scientific literature. Many of the studies indicate that the expression of gratitude increases personal satisfaction. It is somewhat ironic that expressing thankfulness makes people happier. In my personal experience prayer is a way for me to connect with God. I talk to Him directly. My prayers are often answered, sometimes like I imagined but more often in ways I did not expect. I try to remember that my time on earth is limited and only part of the journey. The trials and lessons are meant to develop me. I know I was built for a purpose. Understanding and fulfilling my mission is an evolving process. Prayer allows me to both vent and reflect. Listening and obeying God is the second half of prayer. The communications is not one way. It scares people, myself included, to listen to the voices in my head. It is a vulnerable place to be when you quiet your mind and let God speak to you. I would not say that I hear a specific voice that tells me what to do, but on the rare occasions I shut up I do recognize the right thing to do. I think that is why I am drawn to extreme activities. When hurtling toward imminent doom on the edge of a giant wave that will crush me I cannot focus on anything else and my mind is clear. The Zen Buddhist idea of living in the moment and disconnecting from earthly concerns has a valid point.

Training my self-dialogue is an added benefit of focused verbalized prayer. I try to make the first words out of my mouth in the morning “Praise God from whom all blessings flow. Praise Him all creatures here below, praise Father, Son and Holy Ghost.” This is an outgrowth of the lesson I learned when my son, as a child, greeted me enthusiastically “Dad, I woke up!” In my groggy probably hung over grumpy mind I could not be angry or upset over such a greeting. I started over a quarter of a century ago trying to appreciate the fact that I had another day. That was a huge change over the attitude expressed before. The trivial tasks and challenges of the upcoming day would sometimes immediately overwhelm me. I started to control my self talk and quit cursing and yelling at myself. I named the negative voice “Bud,” after a person who was always speaking ill into my life. “OK Bud” became an appropriate response and helps shut that out of my mind. I still get pissed at things and have a tendency to be grumpy especially without coffee but praying helps focus me towards a higher goal.

One of the most effective ways of keeping me reverent is to pray for others. It reminds me of my uniquely blessed position and how I need to spread the love to others. I pray about adversarial relationships so I can remember my forgiveness and try to freely give grace. Life can be tough, prayer does not change the road but may remind you to look at the scenery on the detour. In times of battle I pray for a steady hand and accurate fire. I am sure my enemy is praying to their God. Blood will spill and heads will roll let me be an instrument of your will.

Some of the realities I recognize: God has a purpose for me, I will serve that purpose no matter what my desire, Pain and suffering are part of the experience. My sincere belief is that this short life is only part of my existence and lessons that I learn here will make sense someday. So pray. Pray often, pray silently, pray out loud. Pray kneeling, standing or on your head. Pray about things you can't change, pray for the strength, will and wisdom to change things you can change. Pray for forgiveness, pray to forgive. Thank God for all your blessings and whine about other things. Pray for yourself, pray for others. Pray often, sincerely, and reverently. Listen and evaluate the voices in your head.